X vs Y Systems Model

X Model

Authoritative

Rules

Don’t Question

Mistakes = Sin

Hierarchy

Win/Lose

Aggressive /Passive

Manipulative

“Life is a Rat Race”

Reactive

Co-Dependent—dependent on leaning and completing each other

Scarcity

Blame – Victim – Entitlement

Controlling – Out of Control

Power Prestige Money Important

Closed Communication

Criticize, Condemn and Complain

Information used to Control or Power

Rebellion Revolt Retaliate

Pretending

Politics

Drama

Quest for attention, approval, and respect from outside self

Comparing to be Superior, Good Enough, or Valued

Competitive Culture

Need for Boundaries

Secrecy

Selfish or Selfless

Obligation, Guilt or Pity

Sacrifice is honored or expected

Pretending – Don’t feel

Argumentative or Combative

Superior or Inferior

Relationships based on Needs

Care too much what others think

Self acceptance based on others

Need to be Right

Save the best for Company

Resistance to change & learning

Y Model

Mutual

Do what works

Question Everything

Mistakes = Learning Experience

Equality

All/Win

Assertive-Direct

Up Front and Honest

“Life is a Learning Journey”

Pro-Active

Interdependent – Sharing/Allowing/Standing together while complete as an individual

Abundance

Self – Responsibility

Self-Control

Happiness for all most important

Valuing experience

Valuing yourself on your journey

Open Communication

Encourage, Inspire and Inform

Information is freely shared

Acceptance

Reality

Centered within self, think for yourself, respect and accept self

Knowledge that our journeys are equal but different

Collaborative

Flexible & Open

Think for yourself

Centered within self

OK with self and journey

Never Sacrifice – see Abundance everywhere

Take responsibility to learn from feelings

Compassionate, Kind Communication

All journeys are equal

Relationships based on shared values and beliefs

Care for self-first others second

Happiness is more important than being right

Unconditional acceptance of self and others

Live up to one’s own personal principles

Change & learning is constant