Background of Emotionology

One of the basic philosophies of Emotionology™, “Life is a learning journey” ,begins with the incredible life journey of its founder Mary Nestle-Hallgren. Mary’s father died when she was nine and she became the major caretaker for her siblings. Married young, she had to grow up quickly when her husband was hospitalized with a long term illness and she became the primary income earner with two babies to care for. After ending a second marriage, with two more children, she embarked on a journey that transformed her role into that of a business owner and sole support at a time when women owned businesses were rare and subject to social discrimination.  At 31, she entered the hospital for minor surgery and due to a mistake awakened to find she had a double mastectomy.   Mary had several phobias, including fear of spiders, fear of being trapped (claustrophobia) and a terrifying fear of going to the dentist.   She passed out from over the counter medication for persistent colds and bronchitis and had taken so much allergy medication that her kidneys were damaged.  Stress made her heart pound out of control at odd moments.  Then she discovered NLP (Neuro-Lingustic Programming) and began to heal her life. She became fascinated with how these techniques changed her addiction to chocolate and removed her fears and phobias.

Mary trained in the early 1980’s with its Founder Richard Bandler as well as other noted NLP greats such as Robert Diltz, Christina Hall, Steve & Conirae Andreas, Mary Hale-Haniff and many others. The success of NLP was based on teaching behaviors and ways of thinking that lead to personal change; the developers selected remarkable people who excelled at successful personal growth and change techniques (e.g., Virginia Satire, Author and Psychotherapist and Milton Erickson, Psychiatrist). By carefully observing how those people thought and acted the NLP founders taught others to mimic the thinking and behaviors that brought about successful results.  Richard Bandler developed a technique to dispel phobias.  He interviewed people who had been able to overcome phobias and discovered they followed a particular thought process. When he taught that process to other people, they rapidly overcame their phobia – in some cases within 15 minutes.

Mary studied A Course in Miracles which added some pieces that she felt was critically lacking in the NLP program.  She also found the “Thinking Model”, during a university level marketing class, which explained how and why the NLP techniques worked. In the years that followed, Mary went on to acquire a BA in Business and Organizational Development, an MBA and a PhD (ABD) in I/O Psychology. Although she completed the coursework, she decided not to finish that program with a dissertation in order to not be limited by that field. While NLP was a large part of her consulting business and coaching practice and heavily influenced the future development of Emotionology it only provided a portion of the framework for Emotionology. Emotionology became much more than NLP

The word Emotionology was coined by Mary in the early 1990’s.  By this time she had over a decade of experience as a consultant, business coach, life coach, NLP coach and trainer.  She was also learning organizational psychology and following the growing fields of neuroscience. What she discovered, while successfully working with thousands of clients, was how patterns of thinking were developed providing the interconnections between emotions, thoughts, beliefs and behaviors.  These interconnections determined an individual’s relationship to the world around them and ultimately their ability to create happiness and fulfillment in their lives.  Learning how to create these patterns gave her the key to teach others how to develop thinking patterns that could no longer be reset when  new challenges appeared in life; people could be free of old dysfunctional patterns. This combination of learning was so exciting to Mary that by 1991 she felt she must share it with others.  The first Emotionology training course based on the Four Models of Emotionology: Biochemical, Thinking, Systems, and Generative, was in 1991. She published her first book “Emotionology – How to Improve Your EQ” in 1994

Today, pulling together the four models of Emotionology combined with over 100 change leading edge techniques provide fast and reliable methods for creating lasting personal change leading to culture change in business systems, personal relationships, and society as a whole.  Emotionology is not a one tool fits all program.  It is a content rich body of knowledge and techniques wrapped up in a practical philosophy that works synergistically and is as unique as you.  Each person that trains in Emotionology will not only find their unique path within it, they will also find new insight within the communities around themselves and the emotional core of humanity.  It is an exciting expansive world of which anyone can partake. We invite you to join us on the journey of learning and understanding. Everyone is welcome.