Emotionology Philosophy

Developing a personal philosophy that works is an important step towards having a continuously fulfilling, satisfying, and happy life. A life where your mind is un-cluttered by the barriers of thinking in terms of limits and scarcity which gives you the room to think in terms of possibilities and abundance and to be in the moment. What has been called a good life. If you don’t know what your personal philosophy is, it is impossible to truly understand yourself much less explain yourself to others. Your current personal philosophy is reflected in the things you say to yourself, your cliches and affirmations but often these thoughts are in conflict with each other when your personal philosophy is cluttered with old beliefs of limitations and scarcity.

A personal philosophy that works is the basket that holds your ideas, beliefs, and values all working together, without conflict, to create a larger view of how your life evolves, flows and fits into this larger puzzle we humans call the meaning of life.  It gives you something to draw from when you need to measure your thoughts or actions to see if they fit.  The Emotionology philosophy, or E philosophy, developed from Emotionology clients. Through over 30 years of coaching, Emotionology founder Mary Nestle-Hallgren  learned what worked and what didn’t work as her clients learned to create their own happy, fulfilling and successful lives.  The E Philosophy incorporates the following beliefs:

  1. Life is supposed to be fun:
    • Happiness for all is the highest goal
    • Happiness is a choice
  2. What is fun begins by seeing:
    • Life as an experience
    • Life as a learning journey
    • Life as an adventure
    • All journeys as equal
  3. Experience teaches that:
    • Everything comes back to you in some form
    • There is something good about everything
    • There is a reason for everything
    • Change is constant
    • You can change any feeling you don’t want
    • To question everything and be curious
    • To communicate abundantly
    • To do what works
  4. Learning to distinguish responsibility from manipulation clears the road for happiness and teaches:
    • Assertive is responsible; passive and/or aggressive is not
    • Need and pity are not love
    • Guilt, obligation and pity are not responsibility and may be manipulation
    • Sacrifice as an attitude is never true giving
    • Bad things happen to good people but only victims choose not to transform the bad into life growing experiences
    • Emotions and situations are NOT either right or wrong
    • Remaining loyal to your principles first but open to updating those principles too
  5. Happiness is a companion of  trust, love and respect but before you can fully trust, love and respect others you must first trust, love and respect yourself by understanding:
    • What you have and what you do is not who you are
    • Respect is earned
    • There is no such thing as failure
    • Mistakes are just opportunities to learn
    • You deserve
    • You can trust your feelings
  6. When you learn to trust yourself, happiness expands through knowing:
    • There is time for everything that is important
    • Life is abundant
    • There is always a way
    • You are not alone