What is Emotionology?

Emotionology is a body of information that has several parts. It includes a healthy/wealthy philosophy, a collection of exercises along with models that explain how and why these exercises or techniques work. Although you probably will need someone to walk you through the exercises at first, over time you can do many of them yourself. No one can make you update your thinking. It is up to you to choose to update your thinking and change your life. Emotionology has the tools to help you do this.

Emotionology startedWhat is Emotionology? out in the 80s with quite a few techniques that came from (NLP) Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Over time other techniques were added from other programs and then the “Thinking Model” was added from marketing research on decision making. The thinking model explains how memory is stored and categorized. The “Bio-Chemical Model” which explains how emotions are really chemistry, came from Candice Pert’s research on how we get our body chemistry. The Positive model or Y vs. X (negative, authoritative, threat) System was developed over time as a result of working with many people and discovering what works and what doesn’t work in groups (family or business) ending in a philosophy that creates health, wealth, and happiness.

Emotionology uses many exercises and processes where you can release the things that hold you back in life. This automatically builds emotional skills. We hold on to beliefs based on experiences we’ve had in our lives, usually as very young children.

When something happens in life and it affects us negatively, it’s usually because some negative emotion is attached to it. When something else happens that reminds us of the emotion of that first event, it attaches itself to the first emotion, and now the two memories are related and categorized as one emotion. When you compound these feelings with other feelings as we go through life, they get tangled up in themselves and create confusion, are emotional triggers or hot buttons. This leads to overwhelm and depression.

Some people want to make sense of the confusion and go into therapy to better understand why they feel the way they do — and look for a way to feel better. Others turn to drugs — prescribed or illegal — or alcohol to numb out, without much success. Others still turn to meditation, spiritual practices, anything to get on that path of feeling good about them. This is a short term fix as the brain is designed to store any emotion or memory until it is transformed mechanically.

Emotionology gets to the heart of a problem. We use exercises and processes to resolve issues without talking it to death. And through learning techniques you can learn to do this yourself, you can clear up a negative emotion fast — sometimes in as little as 30 minutes.

There are two systems that operate in our world. When we understand what these systems are and how they operate, we can not only begin to release those emotions that hold us back from what we want, but make life easier. We can create the life of our dreams. I’m up for it. Are you?

Emotionology Philosophy

Developing a personal philosophy that works is an important step towards having a continuously fulfilling, satisfying, and happy life. A life where your mind is un-cluttered by the barriers of thinking in terms of limits and scarcity which gives you the room to think in terms of possibilities and abundance and to be in the moment. What has been called a good life. If you don’t know what your personal philosophy is, it is impossible to truly understand yourself much less explain yourself to others. Your current personal philosophy is reflected in the things you say to yourself, your cliches and affirmations but often these thoughts are in conflict with each other when your personal philosophy is cluttered with old beliefs of limitations and scarcity.

A personal philosophy that works is the basket that holds your ideas, beliefs, and values all working together, without conflict, to create a larger view of how your life evolves, flows and fits into this larger puzzle we humans call the meaning of life.  It gives you something to draw from when you need to measure your thoughts or actions to see if they fit.  The Emotionology philosophy, or E philosophy, developed from Emotionology clients. Through over 30 years of coaching, Emotionology founder Mary Nestle-Hallgren  learned what worked and what didn’t work as her clients learned to create their own happy, fulfilling and successful lives.  The E Philosophy incorporates the following beliefs:

  1. Life is supposed to be fun:
    • Happiness for all is the highest goal
    • Happiness is a choice
  2. What is fun begins by seeing:
    • Life as an experience
    • Life as a learning journey
    • Life as an adventure
    • All journeys as equal
  3. Experience teaches that:
    • Everything comes back to you in some form
    • There is something good about everything
    • There is a reason for everything
    • Change is constant
    • You can change any feeling you don’t want
    • To question everything and be curious
    • To communicate abundantly
    • To do what works
  4. Learning to distinguish responsibility from manipulation clears the road for happiness and teaches:
    • Assertive is responsible; passive and/or aggressive is not
    • Need and pity are not love
    • Guilt, obligation and pity are not responsibility and may be manipulation
    • Sacrifice as an attitude is never true giving
    • Bad things happen to good people but only victims choose not to transform the bad into life growing experiences
    • Emotions and situations are NOT either right or wrong
    • Remaining loyal to your principles first but open to updating those principles too
  5. Happiness is a companion of  trust, love and respect but before you can fully trust, love and respect others you must first trust, love and respect yourself by understanding:
    • What you have and what you do is not who you are
    • Respect is earned
    • There is no such thing as failure
    • Mistakes are just opportunities to learn
    • You deserve
    • You can trust your feelings
  6. When you learn to trust yourself, happiness expands through knowing:
    • There is time for everything that is important
    • Life is abundant
    • There is always a way
    • You are not alone